By Allie Volpe

Coral community members can opt-in to receive a trauma-informed sex and sexuality series that serves as a primer for post-crisis recovery or a supplementary resource for patients and therapists.

Sexual trauma has consistently been shown to increase the prevalence of depression and anxiety disorders and post-traumatic stress disorder, decrease sexual satisfaction and negatively impact relationship satisfaction. While research in the field of sexual trauma recovery is substantial, resources for inclusive sexual wellness are lacking.

“In the U.S. alone, 25% of men, 44% of women and 47% of trans and nonbinary people experience sexual violence or assault in their lifetimes,”

said Somatic Psycologist, Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Richmond.

“As a practitioner, I’m excited by the potential of Coral’s series to help heal sexual trauma in a considered and contemporary way.”

Launched in 2019, Coral is a leader in the sexual wellness market and the only interactive sexual wellness app designed for everyone. The new release advances Coral’s mission to improve the lived sexual experiences of its community, inclusive of sexual trauma recovery, with sensitivity and expertise.

“Coral exists to fill the void created not only by a lack of sex education, but a lack of frank dialogue around sex,” said Coral founder and CEO Isharna Walsh. “There aren’t many resources for survivors of sexual trauma looking to reconnect with their sexuality beyond therapy, which can be cost-prohibitive for many. It’s important that we address the real-world needs of our community, and that includes creating a safe, secure and trusted space for survivors to heal.”

Coral is available on the Apple App Store and the Google Play Store.

Welcome to the fascinating world of Sex Technology – fast developing, cutting edge and at times jaw-dropping!

In this episode, Leslie is joined by the smart, clinically savvy, sextech expert somatic psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Holly Richmond to talk about what is available to men and women in the current age where sexual devices, remotes and robotics are now at our finger tips.

Sex technology is here to stay and Holly has immersed herself in the understanding of it and how it can enhance our relationships, intimacy, sexual experience and sexual pleasure.

We have an opportunity in this discussion to learn about all that is available and where technology is advancing in the sexual arena and discover new ways to enhance our own sex lives whether we are in the same place with each other or we are far apart.

Sextech provides new novel ways of connecting with our partners. For those who are needing ways to expand and enhance their intimate lives against the backdrop of being home and together more, listen closely!

The “controversial” aspects of sextech are confronted as well and Holly has much to say about how to use the new technology in sexually healthy ways and who may be able to benefit from the specific devices and how.

A conversion about the multi-faceted effects of Covid-19 on our sex lives and sexual fluency during isolation. We discuss sex in social isolation: the explosion of escapism & abstinence, porn & viral love, viral experiences, intentions and expectations, our changing comfort zone with self-exposure on social media, finding freedom from feeling watched, and a lot of self-love how-tos. We go over bluetooth smart toys, teledildonics, immersive sex robots, sex surrogates and sexological body workers, sex athletes and adult virgins, sex work and women’s empowerment, feminism and the demonetizing of sex. We give clear descriptive quotes for initiating conscious long-distance sex and intimacy.

 The Bullet Vibrator – Your Sex Life Savior!

Hello; my name is Danielle and I have been working in the adult toy industry for over a decade. In this time, I’ve spoken with thousands of couples looking for ideas to spice up their sex life. I try to resist using that cliché, but it’s absolutely true. After a comfortable time together, their sex life lacks the excitement it once had, and that’s when couples ask me for suggestions.

Over the years, I’ve seen many fads come & go, but the one and only toy that remains #1 on my list is the bullet vibrator. It’s designed to be held over the clitoris; the pinpoint clitoral vibration brings a woman to orgasm very quickly. If you’ve never tried one before, read on to discover why this could be your sex life savior.

It’s Perfectly Discreet

Many couples who’ve never considered adult toys may feel hesitant or uncomfortable about the thought of trying one. Even though toys are quickly becoming more common and acceptable, it’s still a taboo topic for millions of Americans. This tiny non-phallic device is intended to be used externally so it’s very subtle, discreet and non-intrusive. This is not the typical phallic style one thinks of when hearing the word “vibrator,” so timid couples are more willing to try this option.

Have you Climaxed Together Lately?

One of my favorite and most promoted activities in the bedroom is for partners to climax at the same time. When both partners are in the throes of a powerful orgasm, clenching bodies together at the moment of pure and powerful sexual pleasure, it encapsulates the mind, body and soul together at once. It’s the most exemplary sense of sharing between two lovers. Since it usually takes less than a minute for a woman to reach climax with a powerful bullet vibrator, it’s easy for her to time the climax with her partner.  Because the bullet vibrator is so small, it can be used this way in a multitude of sexual positions.

Revving up the Engine

If libido is lacking, the bullet vibrator is a must-have accessory. The vibration helps women with vaginal dryness to produce their own natural lubrication. If a woman experiences uncomfortable intercourse, I advise them to hold the bullet over the clitoris for a minute or two before penetration. The continuous pinpoint clitoral vibration encourages sexual stimulation and relaxes the vaginal muscles making penetration feel better. If she reaches climax before penetration – even better! Intercourse feels more welcoming after an orgasm. It’s especially useful for senior couples and women who lack sex drive.

Foreplay makes a Comeback

In a new relationship, foreplay is so exciting and highly erotic. Building anticipation of what’s to come drives us crazy with passion. Fast forward many years and foreplay has lost its luster, only allotted to anniversaries and Valentine’s Day. The bullet vibrator can help make foreplay exciting again. All it takes is a little creativity and a playful attitude. (They are called “toys” after all!). Give the bullet vibrator to your partner and let them do all the work while you lay back and enjoy the buzz. A blindfold is a fun accessory to add—when the sense of sight is taken away, the sense of touch is heightened. Blindfold your partner and run the bullet vibrator over their body. The 50 Shades movie series has inspired couples to try full body simulation. When I’m asked for ideas, I’ll suggest the bullet vibrator as it’s more versatile than a feather; it can be used to tickle in the same way but with the occasional surprise of direct erotic stimulation.

What I love most about the bullet vibrator is its versatility. Even though it’s designed for clitoral stimulation, it can be used in many ways. If the bullet vibrator has a cord, it can be inserted vaginally. Some men even buy their own for prostate stimulation. Many people use them expressly as a nipple toy. Some have multiple vibrating functions like thumping vibration and escalating patterns that are perfect for building up sexual stimulation during foreplay. With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it’s the perfect time to try one as a surprise. Happy Lovemaking!

In the sunny living room of a Mediterranean-style house in Oakland, California, Rosalind sips coffee through a straw. The 24-year-old research assistant wears a thin green utility jacket and has large brown eyes and dark wavy hair with pin-up-girl bangs. Sitting on a couch as SLR cameras record her, she gets ready to tell nine people, none of whom she’s met in real life before, about the first time she masturbated.

“I can’t believe I told you guys about the shower masturbation,” says Rosalind (not her real name). “That’s literally the first time I have ever said that out loud.”

A few crew members chuckle. They’re filming for OMGYes, a site that hosts a series of online videos about how to sexually satisfy a woman.

OMGYes is one of a number of companies ushering sex education for the 18 and older crowd into a new era. Serving a space somewhere between the staid, impassive lectures many sat through as students and a pornography industry that values entertainment above all else, these companies use interactive and user-generated digital media to explore the more emotional, intimate and vulnerable sides of sex.

“The internet has offered, along with a lot of really disturbing images and ideas, a lot of potential for positive education,” says Peggy Orenstein author of “Girls & Sex” and “Cinderella Ate my Daughter,” which examines how modern culture sexualizes young girls. Sites like OMGYes, Orenstein says, “have the opportunity to do an end-run around traditional sources of education — and miseducation.”

On the set of OMGYes. The company is in the process of producing its second season. Lynn La/CNet

Can’t Keep My Hands to Myself

Launched in 2015 by U.C. Berkeley graduates Lydia Daniller and Rob Perkins, OMGYes is a startup dedicated to “the science of women’s pleasure.” Its videos feature one-on-one interviews with women like Rosalind who share their sexual history and favorite techniques.
Other videos are interactive.

Viewers can, for example, use their fingers to rub and tap digital renderings of female genitalia on a touchscreen. These images are created from thousands of composited, high-definition photographs stitched together from some of OMGYes’ interviewees, who range in race, age and body type. As you touch, a voice-over softly guides you where to touch and how fast. The lessons end when the screen fades to white. If you do everything “right,” the voice lets out a satisfying sigh. If not, she suggests you stop and take a break.

Online videos have attempted to educate about sex before. In addition to the YouTube channels Sexplanations and Hannah Witton, there’s Laci Green. The 27-year-old YouTube personality has talked about sex and dating since 2008, and has over 1.5 million subscribers. But while videos by Green and others simply require passive watching, OMGYes infuses its tutorials with a level of visceral interactivity and immediacy that video blogs, books and magazines can’t offer.Though the tutorials can be titillating, OMGYes is serious about the facts and techniques it presents. In partnership with Indiana University and The Kinsey Institute, it gathered feedback from more than 2,000 women, ages 18-95. With this information, OMGYes offers a platform for women to talk about a subject that at worst is seen as taboo, and at best, unimportant.
“Why aren’t we talking about pleasure? Like actual pleasure,” says Sybil Lockhart, lead researcher at OMGYes. “When we went to look up what the research was on pleasure, we found that there really wasn’t any. What gets funded generally is pathology. It’s anorgasmia or dryness or soreness.”

The first season of OMGYes is currently available for a $40 flat fee (about £30 or AU$50), and includes lessons about delaying and intensifying orgasms, stimulating the clitoris and communicating in the bedroom. For its 200,000 current users, OMGYes wants its upcoming second season, which doesn’t yet have a release date, to cover internal vaginal touch. It brought in Rosalind to talk about experiences including female ejaculation. After Rosalind wraps up her onscreen interview, the team breaks for a late lunch of Chinese takeout. Later, Rosalind will shoot her touch-and-talk scene, where she’ll masturbate on camera and narrate what works.At the end of all this, she’ll fly back home to DC and return to her job at a university. She hopes her contributions to the project will help form a more sensible, but still joyful, narrative around sex.
“Having more resources like this gives [people] a positive interaction with the actual ins-and-outs of human sexuality, rather than the facade we see in pornography,” Rosalind says. “Fantasies are great, but demonstrate them in a way that are actually attainable.”

Women talk frankly to the camera for OMGYes.

Let’s Make a Movie

The “facade of pornography,” and its entertaining but often unrealistic depictions of sex, motivated Cindy Gallop to find Make Love Not Porn (MLNP) in 2012. A former publicist and marketer who now heads her own consultant firm, Gallop is everything you’d expect an ad exec to be — fast-talking, blunt and charismatic. She created the site after discovering many of the men she slept with made false assumptions about what she wanted in bed.
“Porn, by default, becomes sex education, and not in a good way,” Gallop says. “But the issue is not porn. The issue is that we don’t talk about sex in the real world.” The combination of free streaming online pornography and society’s reluctance to talk openly about sex, Gallop says, results in people taking their sexual behavioral cues from pornography.

To counter this, MLNP encourages users to upload and share videos of themselves having sex or masturbating. Subscribers can rent videos for $5 (about £4 or AU$6, converted) and stream them for three weeks. MLNP has two requirements for submissions: all those involved must consent to the whole process (the recording, the submission and most importantly, the sex itself) and participants must be having the sex they’d have in real life.One video shows a woman getting into a coughing fit while her partner rubs her back and offers a tissue. Another features an orange tabby cat jumping on the bed, indifferently watching its owners have sex and walking to the foot of the bed to lie down. There is small talk. There is silence. There are women with body hair. There are naked men wearing socks.MLNP doesn’t consider its videos to be pornography or even amateur, and to label them as either would be a bit reductive. These videos don’t feature professional actors contractually paid to have sex. The stars are everyday people experiencing genuine sexual connections.
“It’s not performing for the camera,” says Sarah Beall, MLNP’s curator and community manager. “What we’re doing is creating a space to show that real-world sex comes in all different varieties and it isn’t less valuable, pleasurable or worthwhile.”

Other services have goals similar to MLNP. The YouTube channel Fck Yes, for example, shows how people can seek and receive sexual consent. There are only four complete episodes so far, and while the videos use explicit language, they’re relatively safe for work and don’t depict actual sex.MLNP videos include actual sex, and that they are crowdsourced and shareable online is key to MLNP’s overall mission. Anyone with the moxie to whip out a phone and record themselves can spontaneously upload a video and share it with MLNP’s 400,000 subscribers. In the five years since the site launched, 200 users have submitted 1,500 videos.
The company likens users uploading their sexual adventures to MLNP to social media users posting their latest meal on Instagram or vacation photos on Facebook.
“We’re building a whole new category on the internet called ‘social sex,’” Gallop says. “Our competition isn’t porn. It’s Facebook and YouTube. Or it would be Facebook and YouTube if they allowed sexual expression.”
By making more down-to-earth depictions of sex as accessible as possible, Gallop hopes sex will be viewed not as something scandalous or fantastical, but as something intrinsically human.“Nobody ever brings us up on how to behave well in bed,” she says. “But they should. Because there is empathy, sensitivity, generosity, kindness. All those are as important [in sex] as they are in other areas of our lives where we’re actively taught to have those values.”

Love You Better

Empathy, sensitivity and kindness aren’t terms usually used to describe pornography. But porn production company BaDoinkVR hopes to change that. Founded in 2006 and based in Rochester, New York, BaDoinkVR specializes in virtual reality porn.
Although the majority of its content falls into what you’d typically see on a porn site (blond, blowjob, threesome), two of its videos, “Virtual Sexology I” and “Virtual Sexology II,” aim to educate viewers about sexual positions and techniques through a first-person point of view.

On the set of Virtual Sexology II.

Viewers are in the front seat, engaging in foreplay and having sex with an encouraging partner. Sometimes, an omniscient female voice-over gives tips, chiming in about the benefits of pelvic exercises or sex toys. During one scene, when the actress is on her back in a missionary position, the voice cuts in to remind viewers that “pulling the legs back to the chest or close to the ears can create deeper penetration, which can be uncomfortable or pleasurable depending on her body preference.”
“The porn industry’s primary objective is to entertain viewers,” says Dinorah Hernandez, a producer at BaDoinkVR and director of “Virtual Sexology II.” But porn can also be used to educate viewers, she says, adding that in the end, “Virtual Sexology” was created to “help people become better, more confident and more attentive lovers.”
BaDoinkVR isn’t exactly alone in its endeavor to educate within the industry. The video streaming service PornHub, for example, launched a sex education and sexual wellness portal in February 2016. But while the portal functions more like an info center, BaDoinkVR is creating original and engaging video content.

A voice-over gives full context of a sex toy that actress August Ames introduces in “Virtual Sexology I.”

Geared toward straight men, “Virtual Sexology I” has been downloaded over 50,000 times and was BaDoinkVR’s most downloaded video of 2016. For the sequel, which is about female arousal, Hernandez enlisted Holly Richmond, a psychologist who specializes in sex therapy and supervised the techniques and advice featured in the video.
“VR will be a paradigm shifter,” Richmond says. Because of its level of immersion, it “gives us the opportunity to teach empathy, facilitate connection and feel more relational” compared to 2D content.

“Virtual Sexology” is still pornography, and it features attractive actors who moan, squirm and gyrate in all the right ways. But they also do things you don’t usually see in porn.
For example, the (male) actor begins the video by looking into the camera and saying, “I know we’ve been through some hard times with our sex life, but I strongly believe that we are on the best way and path to improve.” They also go through breathing exercises and politely thank “you” after orgasming.
BaDoinkVR hopes to add installments that tackle more complex issues like fear of intimacy or erectile dysfunction.
“These are serious issues for many, and more often than not, people are either too embarrassed or too afraid to admit to them,” Hernandez says.

Tell it like it is, and how it could be

As a porn company, BaDoinkVR benefits from its other, traditional content too, and was able to make “Virtual Sexology” free for download. But services like OMGYes and MLNP don’t have the advantage of working within a multibillion dollar industry. They face an uphill battle, as it’s difficult to get potential investors and partners to distinguish the difference between porn and more nuanced adult content.

One major operational challenge for MLNP was payment processing, due to PayPal’s policy against “sexually oriented digital goods or content delivered through a digital medium.” Email marketing service MailChimp also prohibits sexually explicit content and it took MLNP four more tries to find an email partner. You’ll also never see MLNP or OMGYes in the Apple App Store or Google Play because of strict rules against sexual content.
With such operational roadblocks, it’s hard for companies to get sexually explicit but educational services off the ground. As such, there’s less choice and variety for people looking to learn about sexual behavior, intimacy and well-being. Not only can this be a detriment to individual consumers, but, some would argue, to society as a whole.
“We live in a media culture that is absolutely saturated in sexuality,” Orenstein says. “But we’re utterly silent about what healthy sexual behavior ought to be. That is the real bizarre discontinuity with our culture right now.”

By Lynn La

In early 2014 Ela Darling, 31, a pornographic actress, recorded her first virtual reality sex scene. She was in a college dorm room at the University of Maryland dressed in an R2-D2 swimsuit and high athletic socks. She sat on a twin bed, next to a wooden desk, and spoke to the camera as if it were a real person. There was no story line and no other actors.

“It was a solo masturbation scene,” she said. “I was coy and flirty and then a little bit dirty. I felt sexy as hell.”

Ms. Darling had been filming pornography since she was 22 and took her job seriously. It was her responsibility to convince audiences to connect with her physically and emotionally. She tried everything, including acting out bondage fetishes, performing erotic electrostimulation (“electrosex”) on another woman and dressing as a real-estate agent. Yet no matter what she did to entice and engage, the results had always been voyeuristic, since there was always a screen separating her and her fans.

Adult entertainment with added value

Technology-pessimistic experts often see VR eroticism as a trend towards interpersonal isolation. On the other hand, Dr. Holly Richmond. From a clinical perspective, VR offers numerous and unique opportunities to treat disorders, anxieties or pa- tient-specific problems.

This technology thus enables a perfect symbiosis of entertainment and sexual pedagogy. Instead of simply watching, users of VR eroticism find themselves in the middle of the scene and experience the love-play at close range. It is precisely in this feeling of “dipping” into another world that so much potential lies and promotes the process of healing.

Especially women benefit, according to Richmond. To see a video from the perspective of an actress helps women to intensify their exploration of their own feelings and the rediscovery of pleasure. VR also offers an ideal supplement in combating sexual trauma or promoting empathy. Practical example: A big, strong man looks at an erotic all-round clip from the perspective of a petite woman and vice versa. This is an aid to every therapist.

Industry will benefit

Richmond also sees the pleasurable as well as the pleasurable: for her, sex is always good sex, as long as it happens satisfactorily and freely. Therefore, the possibility to try out your own wishes and preferences in VR is ideal for a better understanding of your own body and the psyche, which inevitably leads to a greater self-esteem. Due to the abundance of benefits, people will also be more willing to spend money on 3D movies. A fact that will also help the industry to produce high-quality content on the latest technology.

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Original Article: http://www.digitalbusiness-cloud.de/sexologin-ist-sicher-vr-erotik-befluegelt-die-lust